Tinder Scam Stories

What is a Romance Scam?

The most common and sophisticated romance scam is perpetrated by an Internet dating site user, also known as an online scammer. A scammer is someone who poses as a different person or fictional character to get the victim to trust and eventually become emotionally attached to them. Often, a fake account or profile is created, and the two parties are in email contact. Once they meet in person, the scammer will have the victim’s passwords, financial information, and bank account information.

It sounds too good to be true, but it often is. Your match may state that they’re from another country and are just visiting in a foreign city. They will tell you that they really like you, but just can’t date you in the state that they’re in.

The Emotional Rollercoaster

The woman finds an emotionally vulnerable man that appears to share her interests, goals, or values. The scammer attempts to put pressure on the woman to get engaged quickly. The scenario goes like this:

The scammer asks to see you the next day

The scammer then tries to arrange a date within a few days or weeks, without telling you any details

The scammer will ask you for money or gifts, or request immediate travel or trip to meet up

Most men and women who have experienced this scenario report they only had a brief conversation with the man online, and that the romance never progressed to meeting in person

There is a common emotional component to romance scams

Romance scams often begin with an emotionally vulnerable woman.

Online Dating Red Flags

The number one rule of online dating is do not invest too much of your time or your heart, whether it is online or offline. If you’re investing more time with someone than they are with you, something is definitely up. The long-term relationship is more than that one blind date you have after a quick Google search. If the online person has been a little secretive, it’s a sign that something is wrong. Their habits don’t match your own, so it’s quite possible that they are not who they say they are.

Lying about your marital status is a big red flag, and most potential love-sick men and women lie about their age, educational background, or even their age. These are some of the big red flags.

Scammers are Everywhere

Even dating and matchmaking sites may be part of the scam. They ask for payments without any promise of money in return. Online dating sites have had problems with scamming men and women. Victims feel scared and discouraged by the situation. The people responsible are intimidating and even criminal.

If you’ve ever been scammed, you can help others by spreading the word. It’s also possible to help your friends and family avoid getting scammed. If you are being conned by a scammer, be brave and report it to law enforcement.

Know the Red Flags

Here are some things to look for to avoid romance scams:

Red Flags

Have you noticed some of these red flags? They can be seen by any red-blooded American man or woman.

Dating Safety Tips

Use a dating service that’s based in another country or an Internet dating service that is based in another city.

Do not reveal sensitive personal information such as your bank account, Social Security number, or physical address. If the relationship becomes intimate, immediately cut off all contact and limit your exposure to social media.

Understand and agree to the rules of the online site. Some sites require a date to join and be in good health, clean and sober, and take medications as prescribed. Others ask for government ID for verification.

Get the basic facts and screening questions at a site’s home page to ensure it’s a legitimate service before you join. Some sites ask about religious and political affiliations, and they may post warning signs for drugs, weapons, etc.


Stranger danger is an important warning, but in many cases, you should follow your gut instinct and give the person a chance. Do your homework on anyone you meet and be cautious of anyone who requests money upfront.